Date nights in marriage

Once married, couples settle in routines, responsibilities, and children; all those activities require more of their individual time and have a way to create distance between husbands and wives; one solution to compensate for the busy schedules is to create intentional together time which is where date nights come into effects.

What happens is that as young couples settle and plan for their future, it is almost always impossible to consider the physical and financial pressures that come with expanding the family with children but one sure strategy is to continue to be gentle and generous with each other.  

Having date nights in marriage is critical and here’s why…

1. Gives the opportunity to the woman to slip in her lover’s energy

Once women become mothers, there is a shift in their energy that creates a focus on the child, they become more “motherly” and think of the husband as an extension of the children…well, this is not a good idea because although the husband appreciates the nurturing energy, he is more interested in the lover’s energy. Getting ready for a date night, and deciding that after the outing there will be intimacy will remove a lot of the random failed attempts of a husband and ensure that there is the together time that can feel each others need for physical connection. This also gives the opportunity to the woman to prepare herself in a sensual way that is attractive to her husband and try her new night gowns or body stockings. Check out our libido kit box and the cute lingeries we offer at www.libido.doctor 

2. Great time to enjoy places we like

Sometimes, just going back to the romantic restaurants we used to eat at when we were dating is already a wonderful way to tie back good memories. This does not have to be the only option for date nights, sometimes, the couple can opt for a weekend away, a night at a hotel or even having the kids spend the night at some relatives.

The key is to remove all possible distractions that could interrupt the flow of the night.

3. Planning and anticipation release more dopamine

Planning date nights or weekends can have a degree of excitement that triggers the anticipation of great times with reward, releasing dopamine and good memories that keep us going when things get hard. Both the husband and the wife must take initiatives or alternate who plans when, allowing each other to play out their fantasies and surprise each other. Date nights should be an itemized expense in the family budget.

4. Improve communication

Date nights help foster a healthy communication, diffuse tension and stress while reinforcing the emotional connection; it’s not the time to talk about bills or complain but decide to create a safe space for relaxation and enjoyment.

5. Remember that one day the children will be gone

Prioritizing your spouse is a way to plant seeds for the time when the children will be gone; remember that you started together and if you want to finish well, you must continue to nurture each other while supporting your children.